Decision time

By Delbert H. Rhodes

Through our lives we learn many rules and laws and rights and wrongs; we are taught to strive for betterment truth integrity honor and yes, honesty.

Still and sometimes: somewhere along the way these values are lost. One day or night we wake with a pulsing plea; a need to surrender to another side of us; perhaps the “true” side of us? We decide to abandon all the time, efforts, years, frustrations and even families to a greater and more important “SELF.”

Correct, and please, if this syndrome seems familiar speak out, stand to own it. The question is WHY?

Why is it that anyone, man or woman, seems to wait until AFTER marriage and children BEFORE realizing that marriage and children were the WRONG things to do; and naturally deciding that abandoning family is proper?

Agreed, the single life is attractive, but could/should this life-style have been more considerable while one “WAS” single? Oh, and yes, the bends and twists in the roadway are ever significant regarding decisions and the “I cannot take it anymores.” Still: What of the children (?); for, forever they are left suffering the mistakes of parents and parenting-or lack thereof….

Surely the professional thinkers would (care to) offer vast studies of psycho-emotional tendencies, and let us never forget those wonderful university studies power packed with armchair academic analyses and resolutions. Great. Yet although we embrace these wonders of mankind’s mental meanderings, still I ask…

Copyright © 2011 Delbert H. Rhodes

4 thoughts on “DECISIONS?

  1. 1 Peter 5:10 “And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast.”


  2. “48:9-15 We have nothing ourselves to plead with God, why he should have mercy upon us. It is for his praise, to the honour of his mercy, to spare. His bringing men into trouble was to do them good. It was to refine them, but not as silver; not so thoroughly as men refine silver.

    If God should take that course, they are all dross, and, as such, might justly be put away. He takes them as refined in part only. Many have been brought home to God as chosen vessels, and a good work of grace begun in them, in the furnace of affliction.

    It is comfort to God’s people, that God will secure his own honour, therefore work deliverance for them. And if God delivers his people, he cannot be at a loss for instruments to be employed. God has formed a plan, in which, for his own sake, and the glory of his grace, he saves all that come to Him.”

    “Behold, I have refined you, but not as silver; I have tested you in the furnace of affliction.” (Isaiah 48:10)


  3. Terry, my dear Terry. Tell me, how can a topic of sadness produce such beautiful words? Yours are passionate and powerful. They hurt yet soothe; they demonstrate suffrage though deliverance is possible.

    How can such horror avail sweetness; and tell me why are we-you and I/others-blessed by a graceful passion to publish this anguish this evil this suffrage?

    Yes, Terry, “…we have so much of the same inner pondering, and inquiries that life may never satisfy.”

    Though this satisfaction may be difficult to obtain through life; let us endeavor to receive it by living.

    I Am Here.


  4. Ah, Delbert, my fellow sojourner – we have so much of the same inner pondering, and inquiries that life may never satisfy.

    One four letter word that sticks out in your post represents the sum total of the present plight of humanity – “SELF.” Human beings are selfish by nature, and we tend to seek fleshly gratification over innate responsibility.

    I suspect that on this side of life, we will never have a complete picture of the complexities of human nature, nor will we solve the mysteries via any one school of thought except – God’s Word. The Fall of Man was the beginning of humanity’s downfall, which exposed God’s creation to a fate worse than Pandora’s Box. Selfishness is the foundation of every evil under the sun.

    My father was selfish – left a wife with three young children to care for alone. My mother was selfish for she could have and should have left her many abusers; but her needs, wishes, and desires were paramount to the well-being of her children. The children are always the last to be considered in any relationship.

    As always, the main focus is to try to resolve the issues that are tearing the home apart. This is usually the result of two “selfish” people trying to get the other to conform to their comfort zone. Even when kids are abused, their salvation isn’t always immediate – some are not believed.

    God laid out the plan for peace and happiness on earth – we choose to discard it – and live as our free will dictates. In many cases, people marry, date and procreate for all the wrong reasons. Because the breakdown usually does not involve the children directly, they are not considered.

    Staying together for the sake of the children is of no value unless there is love, peace, respect and mutual caring in the home. But that sounds more like a trouble free zone – does it not? Just the opposite is what causes the breakdown and separation.

    I often hated my father for he didn’t hit my mother. Many times I felt that if he had stayed, we would not have witnessed violence in our home. On the other hand, we would have been subjected to the same poverty and drunkenness – he was an alcoholic – he was selfish to his other family as well.

    Finally, there are no easy cut and dry answers Delbert – at least, not for me. Growing up with violence and abuse will produce these inner inquiries – for we are obsessed at times with – “What if?” What gets me through the madness is my ministering to the abused and my relationship with Christ.

    God has a plan, always had a plan, and I am so happy that better days are coming. Hope – the future is about hope – the death of Christ gives us Hope. Keep your eyes on the prize my brother – though it cannot be helped, looking back arrests development.

    What of the children? God holds us within His hands. He knows each and every one of us by name.



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